Lessons From 2025 Astrology: The Virgo/Pisces Eclipses and Why We Must Stop Fixing Ourselves Out Of Uncertainty
Eclipses are some of the most significant astrological events, and since fall 2024, we’ve had eclipses fall in the opposing signs of Virgo/Pisces. The signs that our eclipses are active in are determined by where the North and South Nodes are – and these placements are very spiritually significant, representing the places where we are being asked to shed old patterns (South Node sign) and where we are being asked to grow (North Node sign).
With the South Node in Virgo and the North Node in Pisces for all of 2025, we’ve been tasked with examining our relationship with control, uncertainty, and how we navigate the unknown.
If you've been feeling caught between an urge to fix, perfect, and manage every aspect of your life AND a deeper calling toward surrender, trust, and acceptance, you're not imagining it. This is the exact tension the cosmos has been illuminating for all of us.
This post is the first in a series where I'll be sharing key insights I've gained, both from my own journey and from patterns I've witnessed with clients and in the collective, around 2025's most significant astrological transits. Today, we're diving into what the Virgo/Pisces nodal axis has been teaching us about the relationship between control and surrender, fixing and feeling, and why our strategies for avoiding uncertainty might be the very thing keeping us stuck.
The South Node: Understanding Our Familiar Loop
The South Node represents patterns we've come to over-rely on – behaviors and strategies that once served us but now give us a distinct feeling of being stuck in a repeating loop. The South Node itself isn't inherently "bad," but its purpose is to show us where we've become so comfortable that we're avoiding necessary growth.
The South Node in Virgo has been highlighting our collective (and personal) tendency to get stuck in cycles of:
Trying to fix, control, improve, and heal before we can move forward
Perfectionism and "not good enough" narratives
Analysis paralysis and constant self-improvement
Service to the point of depletion
The belief that "I'll be ready/worthy/peaceful once I handle/heal/perfect this"
The loop works like this: You identify something that needs fixing → you work to fix it → in the process, you discover more things that need fixing → you never actually arrive at the peace/joy/abundance you're working toward → back to step one.
And here's what's tricky: This loop feels productive. It feels like you're doing something. It gives you a sense of agency and control. And in a world that often feels chaotic and uncertain, that sense of control is incredibly seductive.
But the South Node asks us to see: What if this constant fixing is actually keeping you from what you truly want?
The North Node: Our Growth Edge (And Why We Avoid It)
The North Node represents our growth edge – the territory we're being called to explore. And because it's unfamiliar and often uncomfortable, we typically have a lot of unconscious resistance to it.
In 2025, the North Node in Pisces has been calling us toward:
Surrender and trust in what we cannot control
Deep feeling and spiritual connection
Accepting uncertainty and the unknown
Receiving rather than constantly doing
Embracing impermanence
Compassion that includes ourselves
And here's why we avoid it: Pisces territory is vulnerable. It requires us to:
Let go of the illusion of control
Face the reality that we cannot fix, manage, or perfect our way to safety
Accept that loss, grief, and impermanence are woven into everything we love
Feel deeply without knowing the outcome
Trust without guarantees
For many of us – especially those who feel deeply, who are sensitive to suffering, who carry a lot of responsibility – the Pisces North Node can feel terrifying. Because if we can't control outcomes, if we can't fix our way to safety, then what?
The Wisdom of the Virgo South Node (Why We Stay Stuck)
Before we rush to "release" Virgo energy, we need to acknowledge: There's wisdom in why we've relied on these patterns.
We've been trying to fix, control, improve, and heal because:
It feels safer than surrendering to uncertainty
It gives us something to DO when we feel powerless
It protects us from fully feeling what's here (if you're always working on yourself, you don't have to actually BE with yourself)
Most importantly: It unconsciously protects us from the Pisces North Node reality of loss and grief
Here's what I mean by that last point:
If you don't let yourself fully receive and appreciate what you have right now – if you keep it at arm's length by focusing on what needs to be fixed or improved – you don't have to feel how precious and impermanent it is.
For those of us who feel grief intensely, who've experienced devastating loss, who are deeply empathic to suffering, this is not a small thing. The Virgo loop has been a protective strategy: "If I'm always fixing/preparing/improving, I won't be caught off guard by loss. I won't be devastated. I'll be in control."
But the cost of this protection is that you also can't fully receive joy, love, or abundance. You're perpetually in preparation mode, never in receiving mode.
Balancing The See-Saw
The work of the nodal axis isn't simply to "release Virgo and embrace Pisces." It's about integrating the medicine of both, while releasing the shadow of both.
I like to think of the nodal axis as a seesaw. When we're working with these energies, we're typically too weighted down on the South Node side – that's where we're stuck, where we keep defaulting to the same patterns. The work isn't to completely abandon that side and jump entirely to the North Node. Instead, we need to release some weight from the South Node while adding experience and capacity on the North Node side until we find a dynamic balance between both.
But here's where it gets nuanced: There's a risk of over-correcting. If we try to completely abandon Virgo and swing entirely into Pisces energy, we can end up stuck in Pisces shadow territory – spiritual bypassing, fantasy without action, or losing our grounded sense of self. The goal is a balanced seesaw that can move dynamically between both energies, not one that's stuck on either extreme.
Releasing from Virgo South Node (taking weight off this side):
Using fixing/controlling as a way to AVOID uncertainty and deep feeling
Perfectionism that prevents you from ever feeling "enough" or taking action
Service that depletes rather than nourishes
Analysis that keeps you in your head and stuck in preparation mode, instead of in your heart/body and in living mode
Integrating Virgo's Medicine (what we keep as we rebalance):
Discernment – knowing what truly needs attention vs. what's a distraction
Devotion – committed, grounded care and presence
Embodiment and action – bringing ideas into physical reality even when imperfect
Boundaries – protecting what's precious (including your joy and capacity to receive)
Sacred work – the ability to show up with precision and presence
Growing Into Pisces North Node (adding weight to this side):
Surrender – trusting what you cannot control
Deep feeling – being WITH what is, not constantly trying to fix it
Receiving – allowing yourself to be nourished
Acceptance of impermanence – loving fully while knowing nothing lasts forever
Embracing the unknown – letting things unfold without needing to know the outcome
Avoiding Pisces Shadow (not over-correcting):
Using surrender as an excuse to avoid all action or boundaries
Staying perpetually in fantasy/visualization without embodying anything
Avoidance disguised as "flow"
Overwhelm and dissolution without grounding
Both Virgo and Pisces, in their shadow expressions, are actually avoiding the same core fear: imperfection, messiness, and the disappointment of grief, loss, and having to choose. They just respond differently:
Virgo's response: "I'll control, fix, and perfect everything so thoroughly that I can avoid the messiness"
Pisces' response: "I'll stay in the realm of imagination where everything remains perfect and unlimited, and never have to face the disappointment of bringing my visions into imperfect reality"
The Balanced Seesaw: We need Virgo's devotion and boundaries to help us navigate Pisces' deep waters of feeling, uncertainty, and impermanence.
We're not abandoning discernment – we're using it to discern what truly needs fixing and action vs. what needs to be felt and received as it is.
We're not abandoning boundaries – we're using them to protect our joy and our capacity to receive, not just to protect ourselves from suffering.
We're not abandoning work or action – we're ensuring our actions come from presence and devotion rather than from fear and avoidance.
Example from My Life: How I've Been Stuck in the Virgo Loop with Manifestation
For years, I’ve felt stuck heavily on the Virgo South Node side of the seesaw, especially when it’s come to manifesting the things I’ve deeply wanted. I'd think:
"Once I heal these wounds, THEN I can attract healthy love"
"Once I address my scarcity mindset, THEN I can be abundant"
"Once I process this pain/trauma/pattern, THEN I can experience joy"
I’ve been perpetuating my own stuck-ness by unconsciously trying to fix and heal everything before I could allow myself to feel joy or receive love. The problem? There's always more to heal. The to-do list of self-improvement is infinite. And while I was busy trying to become "ready" for joy and love, I was completely unavailable to receive the joy and love that was already present within my friendships, in small moments of beauty, in the coziness of my current living situation, and in my family’s (unique form of) care.
And occasionally, I'd swing to the opposite extreme – pure Pisces shadow – endlessly visualizing my ideal partner or dream life, staying in fantasy where everything was perfect and I didn't have to risk the disappointment of reality falling short.
Both patterns, the fixing and the fantasizing, were keeping me from actually showing up in my real, imperfect life.
What I was really doing: Using the fixing/healing loop to avoid the Pisces North Node vulnerability of actually HAVING and RECEIVING. Because joy and love are inherently vulnerable – they're impermanent, uncertain, and precious. And if I let them fully in, I'd have to accept I could lose them.
The shift I'm learning: I had to accept that joy and love come with vulnerability, uncertainty, and the inevitability of loss. And that my constant focus on "fixing the lack" was actually a way of protecting myself from feeling that vulnerability.
The integration: I need Virgo's boundaries – but to protect my JOY and capacity to receive, not to keep me perpetually working on my "not-enoughness." I need boundaries around how much suffering I take on, how much fixing I commit to, so that I have energy left to actually receive and appreciate what's here.
And I need Pisces' deep feeling and surrender, to let things matter to me NOW, knowing they won't last forever, and while trusting that the grief is part of the package of a meaningful life.
What My Cat Mickey Taught Me About Receiving
Earlier this year, I lost my cat Mickey. But in his final few years, he taught me what the highest expression of integrated Virgo/Pisces energy can look and feel like.
If I'm honest, I often take the love I have with my closest friends and family for granted. I'm not always present enough to fully receive and enjoy it – too often, I'm preoccupied in my head, focused on the lack of things I still want and don't have, strategizing about how I might get them.
But with Mickey, something shifted. It was actually because he was visibly getting more frail and closer to death that I was able to snap out of my head and start deeply appreciating the love I had here and now with him, in the present moment.
Ironically and paradoxically, the very thing that keeps most of us unconsciously avoiding fully receiving – the fear of inevitable loss and grief – is what helped me receive more fully. By facing that inevitability head-on and accepting it, I was able to cherish my sweet little Mick in a way I hadn't before.
This is the Pisces North Node teaching in action: Turning toward the discomfort of eventual loss and using it to feel, love, and receive more deeply in the present, instead of using the fear of it as a reason to avoid feeling and loving deeply at all.
And this is the Virgo medicine: I showed up with devotion. I cared for him with attention and presence. I made conscious choices about his care, set boundaries around my energy so I could be there for him, and used my discernment to know what he (and I) needed.
The integration: I used the knowledge of impermanence (Pisces) not to detach or protect myself, but to feel my love and appreciation MORE deeply. And I used Virgo's devotion and boundaries to create the container for that deep feeling – to show up consistently, to protect our time together, to honor what was sacred.
To this day, Mickey is one of my biggest teachers of love. He showed me how to expand my capacity to receive and give love – not by healing or fixing myself enough to finally deserve more of it, but by developing the capacity to actually risk it mattering, to let it be precious, even while knowing it was impermanent.
I've been slowly, bit by bit, learning to apply this to other areas of my life as well – to my human relationships, my living situation, my creative work, and my experience of small but meaningful daily joys.
When Mickey passed, the grief was real and deep, but I had no regret. I didn't wish I'd loved him less or protected myself more. The grief was evidence of how fully I'd loved him. And that's the teaching: impermanence doesn't diminish love – when you lean into it consciously, it intensifies love.
Can I bring this same presence to everything else in my life? Can I receive what's here fully, knowing it will change? Can I use boundaries and devotion to protect my capacity to feel and receive, rather than to avoid feeling?
The Practice: Finding Your Balance
If you're feeling called to work with this nodal axis more consciously, here's a practice I've been using:
Daily Question: "What abundance is here right now that I'm available to fully receive — knowing it will change or end?"
The Four Steps:
Feel it in your body (Pisces: embodied presence, not just mental acknowledgment)
Acknowledge its impermanence (Pisces: accepting what is, including that it will end)
Let both feelings coexist (Pisces: holding paradox – the warmth of appreciation AND the tender ache of knowing it will change)
Receive it anyway (Pisces: surrender and trust, letting it nourish you)
The phrase I use: "I let this matter to me, knowing I will lose it. And I protect my capacity to let things matter."
Finding the Balance - Questions to Ask Yourself:
If you're stuck on the Virgo South Node side (too much weight here):
What am I trying to fix my way out of feeling?
What would it mean to receive what's here, even knowing it's imperfect?
Where am I using "not ready yet" as a way to avoid vulnerability?
What imperfect action could I take today, accepting it won't be perfect?
If you're over-correcting into Pisces shadow (swinging too far the other way):
Where am I staying in fantasy instead of engaging with reality?
What dreams need to be brought into imperfect, concrete action?
Where am I using "surrender" or "flow" to avoid setting boundaries or taking responsibility?
What grounded, Virgo-style devotion could support my Pisces vision?
The balanced seesaw:
Can I take action toward my dreams while accepting the outcome will fall short of my fantasy?
Can I receive what's here deeply while maintaining boundaries around what depletes me?
Can I feel everything while also discerning what actually needs my attention?
Can I bring my visions into reality while surrendering to their inevitable imperfection?
Integrating Into 2026
We're still in this nodal cycle through July 2026, when the North and South Nodes change signs. The eclipses on this axis will continue to illuminate where we're stuck in fixing/controlling and where we're being called to surrender and receive.
This isn't about perfectly releasing Virgo and only embodying Pisces. It's about becoming more conscious of when you're using fixing as a way to avoid feeling, and more intentional about using boundaries and devotion to support your capacity for deep presence and receiving.
For those of us who feel everything intensely, who've been told we're "too much," who carry a lot, this axis is calling us home to our gifts. Your capacity to feel deeply isn't something to fix or manage; it's the doorway to a meaningful life. But you need Virgo's boundaries and devotion to create a sustainable container for Pisces' depths.
The cosmos is supporting this integration. The question is: are you ready to receive it?
Ready to explore how these transits are showing up in your personal chart? Book a 1:1 astrology reading with me to understand your unique relationship with the Virgo/Pisces axis and how to work with these energies in your life.
Or if you're seeking deeper support in navigating uncertainty, grief, and receiving, consider a Soul Listening Session where we can explore what's present for you with compassion and presence.
Stay tuned for the next post in this series, where I'll explore another key astrological lesson from 2025.
